I’ve had a recurring dream most of my life.
That there is plenty in the world until I arrive. Then something happens. But everyone around me is oblivious to my situation.
People see me a certain way and cannot see that my reality is quite different from their perception. I am assumed or judged by actions I have not taken and a reality I have not lived.
Last night I dreamt I got to attend a music performance at my daughter’s college. One of her friends was performing with a group, and the event would be followed by a banquet.
We arrived and everything was beautiful. We picked out seats, but I really needed to find a restroom. On my way back, I get completely lost. I ask for directions back to the performance hall, but no one knows what I’m talking about.
I finally find my way back, but I’ve not only missed the performance, I cannot find anyone I know. Still, I’m just in time to get a plate of food from the buffet before they tear it down. And I’m so hungry.
The buffet table is huge, taking up most of one side of the banquet room. As I go through, there’s very little left that I’m not allergic to, but I manage to find a little meat. Thankfully there’s still a little salad left on the salad bar at the end of the buffet.
I set my plate down to get the last of the salad, but as soon as I do, someone has taken my plate of food.
I’m in tears and I cry out, Not Again.
I can’t find my plate anywhere. My stomach pangs growl. And as I look back over the buffet, it’s been completely cleared.
All I have are a few leaves of spinach in a bowl. Even the water is gone.
And I feel despair.
This dream theme has recurred most of my life. And seems to play out in weird ways in my reality.
That everything somehow seems more complex for me. That normal sustenance, and needs fulfilled, is not readily available to me. That my trials are never typical. Like an alien trapped on a world I never quite click with. My timing is always off.
Everyone congratulates me on my cooking skills, yet no one is aware that I’m starving.
While it has improved some over time (i.e. my dreams rarely involve mortal danger now too), I’d like to conquer this dream. Master whatever it is that it represents. This dream had gotten better before. But it’s gotten much worse in the last 3 years since John’s glioblastoma diagnosis and death.
It’s understandable, but I need to figure out how to resolve it.
2 responses to “There Is No Spoon…”
Conquer. The isolation and abandonment in your dream sounds terrifying. I wish you positive connections to anchor and support you until you have the strength to rebuild the load-bearing walls damaged by your family’s encounter with GBM. Your words will help you find a way. Peace and strength to you and yours.
Thank you Kathleen!