People ask about my philosophy for finding my balance.
Especially with all that’s happened to my family, these last 3 years.
Life can be overwhelming.
It can drown you.
And it will without boundaries.
It will without a way to brace yourself.
Find where your wall is.
That place that when you’re against it, you daren’t go past.
That place that makes you face what you want to run from.
That place that you can hang onto when the world rages at you.
When I have trouble with my boundaries today, my wall is my son.
Some will say it should be God.
I don’t disagree, but sometimes it’s when our kids are at risk that we rise up when we otherwise didn’t have it in us.
Sometimes, it’s Unconditional Love, not our vision of a Creator, that makes us see more.
I have a son fighting cancer who needs me to stick to my boundaries.
I need to accomplish a certain number of things.
I need to hit a certain $$ number every year to make sure he has access to the care he needs.
Talk about being hungry enough – most people I know do not understand what hungry actually is.
I cannot hit the number I need if I’m not disciplined about my work and how I bill.
I share that as someone who knows this and still struggles sometimes, even after 20+ years of part-time self-employment.
I share this because my son is my motivation above all else at this time.
We handcrafters, we women, we caregivers, we the self-employed who fight imposter syndrome…
– We must value ourselves and we must reverse engineer how to supply our needs.
Find that thing for you that helps you stick to your boundaries and commitments.
Find Your Wall.
When you have that, you will often find clarity in what is healthiest for you, your family and your business.